Love is definitely in the air this week, especially today. Valentines Day means different things to different people. For some, it is a day to celebrate love and affection. For others, it is a day of sadness to mourn the loss of love, or the loss of someone they once loved dearly. It should be a day for reflection. Yes, we should reflect on our love for others, but at the core, each of us should ask this one very important question: “how much do I LOVE MYSELF?”
If we don’t love ourselves, we set ourselves up for a life of misery and failure. I don’t mean loving ourselves to the point where we become so self-obsessed and self-absorbed we have little room to love anyone else. But, the lack of love for oneself often means we settle for less than we truly deserve from our spouses, our partners, our family members, and our friends. Sometimes, we have to be our own cheerleaders.
I had a conversation last night with a very special person. The moment she picked up the phone, I could hear the sadness and frustration in her voice. “What’s wrong?” I asked. She paused, and then went on to explain how frustrated she was that she kept doing things over and over for other people but they would seldom assist her when she needed the help. I had heard this oh so often. So I said, “you have to learn to say no! You have to take care of yourself otherwise people will take advantage of you and not care!” She admitted she was overextended, and I knew this was the type of person who kept on giving, without realizing her happiness was jeopardized. Last night she said, “I am learning to say no from now on!”
This Valentines Day, who is the apple of your eye? The first answer, should be “I am!”
Until Next Time,